No One's Ever Nice to Me

Butterscotch Horseman: You could be nicer to her.
Beatrice Horseman: No one's ever nice to me. Why should I be nice? 

"Time's Arrow". Bojack Horseman. Writ. Raphael Bob-Waksberg. Tornante Television. 2017, Netflix.

I watch a lot of true crime TV, ngl. When I say true crime, I mean HLN Forensic Files, Oxygen Snapped, and ID Murder in the Heartland, Homicide Hunter and Shattered, to name a few.

This is not because I glorify murder. I do have a fascination with how these crimes are solved. Each episode is a chronicling of real crimes that have occurred over the years.

One of the common opinions I see in these shows during interviews with reporters or family and friends of the victim or even the killer themselves is: they had a rough childhood i.e. abuse, sexual or otherwise or other traumas.

I find this excessively frustrating. Not because I don’t believe these people had difficult childhoods. Quite the opposite. I agree that many of these people had difficult childhoods. However, I don’t agree that they get to use their difficult childhood as an excuse for their heinous crimes.

In one interview with a family member of one of the victims, the individual made a comment that I found profound. Sure, they had a difficult childhood, but a lot of people have and did, but they didn’t kill someone in cold blood.

I told my mother, I’ve told her this many times, that no matter what has happened to you in your life, especially bad, horrible unspeakable things, it doesn’t give you the right to do the same to others.

That’s all I really have to say about this. It just frustrates me to no end when I hear people say this about people who kill others in cold blood. It’s hard to be nice to others if you feel no one has ever been nice to you. It doesn’t mean you should strive to be nice. And I say that from experience. I used to have that attitude. But one day, I woke up and realized, wait a minute. Sure, I’ve been mistreated, but why mistreat people who had nothing to do with past mistreatment? Of course, if the person mistreating you is the same person you’re struggling to be nice to, that’s a different bowl of soup, that I won’t be attempting puff on so it’s cool enough to eat right now.

Be well.

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